When you’re in the Consumed State, emotions completely take over, and you feel overwhelmed by your reactions. This is the most intense reactive state, where fear, stress, and frustration control your actions, keeping you stuck in destructive patterns.

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Instead of responding with clarity and self-trust, you become hijacked by emotions, making it harder to recognize your own worth and make empowered choices.

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EXAMPLES:

• Explosive anger or emotional outbursts.

• Spiraling into hopelessness, depression, or despair.

• Feeling trapped in frustration, blame, or guilt.

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HOW IT DISCONNECTS YOU FROM YOUR SELF WORTH:

When you're consumed by emotions, it's easy to believe that your reactions define you, leading to regret, shame, or feeling unworthy. The truth is, your emotions are valid, but they don’t have to control you.

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By breaking free from the Consumed State, you can learn to regulate your emotions, reclaim your power, and remember your self-worth—even in difficult moments.

In the Disconnected State, reactive patterns are more subtle but just as limiting. They often disguise themselves as helpful or harmless behaviors, making them harder to notice. Beneath the surface, these behaviors are driven by unconscious fears, insecurities, and self-doubt, slowly eroding your confidence and self-worth over time.

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Instead of feeling fully aligned and empowered, you may find yourself playing small, avoiding conflict, or prioritizing others' needs over your own, believing that’s the "right" thing to do.

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EXAMPLES:

• People-pleasing or avoiding confrontation, even when it comes at your expense.

• Passive-aggressive behaviors—expressing frustration indirectly instead of setting clear boundaries.

• Staying “busy” to avoid important decisions, keeping yourself distracted from what truly matters.

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HOW IT DISCONNECTS YOU FROM YOUR SELF WORTH:

The Disconnected State keeps you trapped in patterns of hesitation and self-abandonment, reinforcing the belief that your needs, desires, and voice don’t matter as much as others’. Over time, this creates resentment, exhaustion, and a lack of deep fulfillment.

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But these patterns aren’t who you are—they’re just strategies you’ve used to feel safe. When you break free from them, you reclaim your self-worth, your boundaries, and your ability to stand confidently in who you are.

The Drained State is the most deceptive because it often feels like "normal" stress, overthinking, or just being "off." But in reality, it’s a reactive pattern that gradually chips away at your self-trust and clarity.

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You may look fine on the outside, but internally, your mind is running in circles, draining your energy and leaving you feeling stuck. This state is subtle, internal, and easy to dismiss—until you realize how much it’s holding you back.

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EXAMPLES:

• Chronic stress or tension in your body, even when "nothing is wrong."

• Overthinking and indecision, constantly second-guessing yourself.

• Anxiety or a nagging feeling something's "off" without being able to pinpoint why.

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HOW IT DISCONNECTS YOU FROM YOUR SELF WORTH:

This state keeps you in a constant loop of self-doubt, making it hard to fully trust yourself. When you’re caught in the Drained State, you hesitate, overanalyze, and struggle to take decisive action—not because you’re incapable, but because your self-worth is buried under layers of doubt and mental exhaustion.

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Breaking free from this state allows you to reclaim your inner clarity, reconnect with your intuition, and step boldly into your worth.